ETIQUETTE - class 4
DUA’A
After learning the names of Allah and the qualities He S.W.T. loves & hates, today we move on to the deed in which we are directly talking to our Lord. And so it is of utmost importance to get our Etiquette right. The act is Duaa, something every single human being does, some the right way, some with some mistakes and many asking the wrong person altogether so today we will learn the Etiquette of Duaa InShaAllah. Remember it is ONLY ALLAH who can answer and fulfill our Needs :)
DUA’A
Allaah loves to be asked, and He encourages that in all things. He is angry with the one who does not ask of Him and He encourages His slaves to ask of Him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And your Lord said: “Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your (invocation)” [Ghaafir 40:60]
Prerequisites/Conditions for Du’aa
1. Tawheed
The one who is making du’aa’ should believe in Tawheed with regard to the divinity, Lordship, names and attributes of Allaah. His heart should be filled with Tawheed. In order for Allaah to respond to the du’aa’, it is essential that the person should be responding to his Lord by obeying Him and not disobeying Him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad) concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright” [al-Baqarah 2:186]
2. Sincerity towards Allaah alone in making du’aa
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And they were commanded not, but that they should worship Allaah, and worship none but Him Alone (abstaining from ascribing partners to Him)” [al-Bayyinah 98:5]
Du’aa’ is worship, as the Prophet ﷺ said, so sincerity (ikhlaas) is a condition of its being accepted.
3. Ensuring that one’s food and clothing are good (i.e., halaal)
Muslim (1015) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “O people, Allaah is Good and does not accept anything but that which is good. Allaah enjoins upon the believers the same as He enjoined upon the Messengers. He says (interpretation of the meaning):
‘O (you) Messengers! Eat of the Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods which Allaah has made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats, vegetables, fruits)] and do righteous deeds. Verily, I am Well‑Acquainted with what you do’ [al-Mu’minoon 23:51]
‘O you who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah — Islamic Monotheism)! Eat of the lawful things that We have provided you with’ [al-Baqarah 2:172]
Ibn Rajab (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Ensuring that one’s food, drink and clothing are halaal, and that one is nourished with halaal, is a means of having one’s du’aa’ answered. End quote.
The Etiquette (Sunan) of Du’aa
1. We should ask of Allaah by His most beautiful names
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And (all) the Most Beautiful Names belong to Allaah, so call on Him by them, and leave the company of those who belie or deny (or utter impious speech against) His Names” [al-A’raaf 7:180]
2. We should praise Allaah as He deserves before we call upon Him
Al-Tirmidhi (3476) narrated that Fadaalah ibn ‘Ubayd (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Whilst the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ was sitting, a man came in and prayed and said, “O Allaah, forgive me and have mercy on me.” The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said, “You have been too hasty, O worshipper. When you have prayed and are sitting, praise Allaah as He deserves to be praised, and send blessings upon me, then call upon Him.” According to another version (3477): “When one of you prays, let him start with praise of Allaah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ, then let him ask whatever he likes after that.” Then another man prayed after that, and he praised Allaah and sent blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ. The Prophet ﷺ said: “O worshipper, ask and you will be answered.”
3. Sending blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Every du’aa’ is kept back until you send blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Awsat, 1/220.
It was narrated that Ubayy ibn Ka‘b (may Allah be pleased with him) said:
I said: O Messenger of Allah, I send a great deal of blessings upon you; how much of my du‘aa’ should be sending blessings upon you? He said: “Whatever you wish.” I said: One quarter? He said: “Whatever you wish, and if you do more, that will be better for you.” I said: One half? He said: “Whatever you wish and if you do more, that will be better for you.” I said: Two thirds? He said: “Whatever you wish and if you do more, that will be better for you.” I said: I will make all of my du‘aa’ for you. He said: “Then your concerns will be taken care of and your sins will be forgiven.” (This hadith was narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2457), Ahmad (20736), and al-Bayhaqi. Classed as Hasan by Tirmidhi and Sahih by Albani)
4. Facing towards the qiblah
Muslim (1763) narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: On the day of Badr, the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ looked at the mushrikeen, who were one thousand strong, and his companions numbered three hundred and nineteen. Then the Prophet of Allaah ﷺ turned to face the qiblah, then he stretched forth his hands and started to cry out to his Lord: “O Allaah, grant me what You have promised me, O Allaah, give me what You have promised me. O Allaah, if this small band of Muslims perishes, You will not be worshipped on earth.” He kept on crying out to his Lord, stretching forth his hands, facing towards the qiblah, until his cloak fell from his shoulders…
al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Sharh Muslim: This shows that it is mustahabb to face towards the qiblah when making du’aa’, and to raise the hands.
5. Raising the hands
Abu Dawood (1488) narrated that Salmaan (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “Your Lord, may He be blessed and exalted, is Kind and Most Generous, and He is too kind to let His slave, if he raises his hands to Him, bring them back empty.”
The palm of the hand should be raised heavenwards, in the manner of a humble beggar who hopes to be given something. Abu Dawood (1486) narrated from Maalik ibn Yasaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “When you ask of Allaah, ask of Him with the palms of your hands, not with the backs of them.”
Hands Should be kept together without a Gap between them
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) stated in al-Sharh al-Mumti’ (4/25): “As for separating them and holding them far apart from one another, there is no basis for that in the Sunnah or in the words of the scholars.”
6. Having certain faith that Allaah will respond,
Having certain faith that Allaah will respond, and focusing with proper presence of mind, because the Prophet ﷺ said: “Call upon Allaah when you are certain of a response, and remember that Allaah will not answer a du’aa’ that comes from a negligent and heedless heart.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3479.
7. Asking frequently
A person should ask his Lord for whatever he wants of the good things in this world and the Hereafter, and he should beseech Allaah in du’aa’, and not seek a hasty response, because the Prophet ﷺ said: “The slave will receive a response so long as his du’aa’ does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not hasty.” It was said, “What does being hasty mean?” He said: “When he says, ‘I made du’aa’ and I made du’aa’, and I have not seen any response,’ and he gets frustrated and stops making du’aa’.” Narrated by al-Bukahari, 6340; Muslim, 2735.
8. He should be firm in his du’aa
Because the Prophet ﷺ said: “No one of you should say, ‘O Allaah, forgive me if You wish, O Allaah, have mercy on me if You wish’; he should be firm in his asking, for Allaah cannot be compelled.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6339; Muslim, 2679.
9. Beseeching, humility, hope and fear
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Invoke your Lord with humility and in secret” [al-A’raaf 7:55]
“And remember your Lord within yourself, humbly and with fear and without loudness in words in the mornings and in the afternoons” [al-A’raaf 7:20]
10. Saying du’aa’s three times
Al-Bukhaari (240) and Muslim (1794) narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: and "...when he made du’aa’ or asked of Allaah he would repeat it three times..."
11. Saying du’aa’ silently and not out loud
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Invoke your Lord with humility and in secret” [al-A’raaf 7:55]
12. Doing good deeds and asking Allah by one’s good deeds
Qasim bin `Abd said: ʺI said to Anas bin Malik: ʹO Abu Hamzah pray to Allah for us.ʹ He said: ʹDu’a is elevated by
good deeds.ʹʺ
Bukhari and Muslim relate the hadîth of the Prophet ﷺ of the story of three men, who each supplicated to Allah by (mentioning) a good deed they had done earlier in their lives.
“Three persons of a people before you were on a journey when they were overtaken by a storm; therefore, they took shelter in a cave. A rock slipped down from the mountain and blocked the exit of the cave. One of them said, ‘The only way for deliverance is to beseech Allah and (to mention) some virtuous deed (he did purely for His sake).’”
One of the men mentioned a good deed which they had done for Allah, and supplicated, “O Lord, if I did this thing seeking only Thy pleasure, then do Thou relieve us of the distress wrought upon us by this rock.”
The rock moved, but not enough to free the men. So, the other two made similar supplications while mentioning their good deeds until the rock moved enough to free them.
13. Making du’a for others
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whenever you make a supplication for another believer and he is not present, an angel will say ‘and same to you.’”
Abdallah ibn ʹAmr ibn al‐ʹAs reported that the Prophet ﷺ said: ʺThe supplication that gets the quickest answer is the one made by one Muslim for another in his absence.ʹʹ (Abu Dawʹud and Tirmidhi)
14. Memorizing the Authentic Supplications and du’as of the Prophet ﷺ
We should all do our best to memorize the different du’as made by the Prophet ﷺ in the different situations throughout our day, to keep ours tongues wet with the remembrance of Allah, and by extension purify our hearts.
15. Asking Allah in times of ease
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever is pleased that Allah answers his prayers during hardships and difficulties let him make much supplication during times of ease.” (at‐Tirmidhi)
Times & PLaces where Duaa are answered
1. Laylat al-Qadar
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah asked the Prophet ﷺ: “If I know what night is Laylat al-Qadar, what should I say during it?” He said: “Say: Allaahumma innaka ‘afuwwan tuhibb ul-‘afwa fa’fu ‘anni (O Allaah, You are forgiving and love forgiveness, so forgive me).”
2. Du’aa’ in the depths of the night, the time before dawn
The Prophet ﷺ said,
“Our Lord descends every night, during the last third of it, to the skies of this world, and asks: Who will call upon Me, that I may answer Him? Who will ask of Me, that I may give him? Who will seek My forgiveness, that I may forgive him?” (Sahih Bukhaari).
There is at night an hour, no Muslim happens to be asking Allah any matter of this world or the Hereafter, except that he will be given it, and this (occurs) every night. (Sahih Muslim)
3. After the final Tashahud in the Prayers
Abu Umaamah, it was said: “O Messenger of Allaah, which du’aa’ is heard?” He said: “In the last third of the night, and following the prescribed prayers.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3499;
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah and his student Ibn al-Qayyim were of the view that it is before the salaam. Ibn Taymiyah said: “The word dabr refers to something that is part of a thing, like dabr al-haywaan (the hindquarters of an animal).” Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1.305. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: “What has been narrated of du’aa’ following the prayer is before the salaam and what has been narrated of dhikr following the prayer is after the salaam.
4. Between the adhaan and the iqaamah.
Prophet ﷺ said: “A du’aa’ offered between the adhaan and iqaamah is not rejected.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (521) and al-Tirmidhi (212).
5. When prostrating
The Prophet ﷺ said: “The closest that a person is to his Lord is when he is prostrating, so say a great deal of du’aa’ then.” Narrated by Muslim, 482.
6. When hearing the crowing of a rooster
Hadeeth: “When you hear the crowing of a rooster, ask Allaah of His bounty, for he has seen an angel.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2304; Muslim, 2729.
7. When saying the du’aa’, “Laa ilaaha illa anta, subhaanaka, inni kuntu min al-zaalimeen
The Prophet ﷺ said: “The prayer of Dhu’l-Noon (Yoonus) which he said when he was in the belly of the whale: ‘Laa ilaaha illa anta, subhaanaka, inni kuntu min al-zaalimeen ([none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allaah)], Glorified (and Exalted) be You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]! Truly, I have been of the wrongdoers.’ No Muslim recites this du’aa’ concerning any matter but Allaah will answer him.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi
8. If a calamity befalls him and he says, Inna Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon, Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha
The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ say: “There is no calamity that befalls one of the Muslims and he responds by saying ‘Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilahi raaji'oon, Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha (Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return; O Allaah, reward me in this calamity and compensate me with something better than it),’ but Allaah will compensate him with something better than it". Muslim 918.
9. Du’aa’ for one who is sick
The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “When you visit a sick person, say good things, for the angels say Ameen to whatever you say…” Muslim (919)
10. The prayer of the one who has been wronged
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Fear the prayer of the one who has been wronged, for there is no barrier between it and Allaah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 469; Muslim, 19.
“The prayer of the one who has been wronged will be answered, even if he is an evildoer, for his evildoing is only against himself.”Narrated by Ahmad.
11. The du’aa’ of a father for his child, the du’aa’ of a fasting person and the prayer of the traveller
Prophet ﷺ said: “There are three prayers that are not rejected: the prayer of a father for his child, the prayer of the fasting person and the prayer of the traveller.” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi
12. The du’aa’ of a righteous person for his parents
"When the son of Adam dies, all his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity, a righteous son who will pray for him, or beneficial knowledge.” Muslim (1631)
13. When Waking up at Night and reciting a Dua mentioned in the Sunnah.
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever gets up at night and says Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah wa Allaahu akbar wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa Billaah (There is no god but Allaah and Allaah is Most Great and there is no power and no strength except with Allaah), then he says: Allaahumma ighfir li (O Allaah, forgive me), or he makes du’aa’, his prayer will be answered, and if he does wudoo’ and prays, his prayer will be accepted.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1154.
More recommended times
14. On the day of Arafah (Tirmidhi)
15. A certain time on Friday. (Between Asr & Maghrib) [Bukhari & Muslim]
16. When drinking Zamzam water. (Ahmad)
17. When rain falls. (Abu Dawood)
18. The First Ten Days of Dhul-Hijjah.
19. When the call for the prescribed prayers is given and when the ranks are drawn up for battle
The Most Important Matter to ask for
Guidance
Forgiveness
Paradise
Protection from Afflictions
To keep us steadfast
Praying for the Ummah
A Good End
Disliked/Forbidden acts in Dua
Asking for prohibited things
Exaggerating in Dua
To Pray for Matters of this World Only
Improper Names and Attributes of Allah
Dua to Expedite Punishment
Dua Against Oneself and Family
To Curse Someone
To Limit Mercy
To Pray for Death
To Imply that One will not Ask Anything Else
Excessive Poetry in Dua
To Have Evil Intentions
Reasons why Du’aas might not be accepted.
1. When the du’aa’ is weak in itself, because it involves something inappropriate, or involves bad manners towards Allaah, may He be exalted, or it is inappropriate, which means asking Allaah for something which it is not permitted to ask. The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “A person's du’aa’s will continue to be answered so long as he does not pray for something sinful or for the breaking of family ties.” Narrated by Muslim
2. When the person who is making du’aa’ is weak in himself, because he is faint-hearted in his turning towards Allaah. This may be either because of bad manners towards Allaah, may He be exalted – such as raising his voice in du’aa’ or making du’aa’ in the manner of one who thinks he has no need of Allaah; or because he pays too much attention to the wording and tries to come up with unnecessarily ornate phrases, without paying attention to the meaning; or because he tries too hard to weep or shout without really feeling it, or he goes to extremes in that.
3. Comminting Sins The reason why his du’aa’ is not answered may be because he has done something that Allaah has forbidden, such as having haraam wealth – whether it be food or drink or clothing or accommodation or transportation, or he has taken a haraam job, or the stain of sin is still in his heart, or he is following bid’ah (innovation) in religion, or his heart has been overtaken by negligence.
4. Consuming haraam wealth. This is one of the major reasons why du’aa’s are not answered. The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “O people, Allaah is Good and only accepts that which is good. Allaah commanded the pious to follow the same commandments as He gave to the Messengers. He says (interpretation of the meaning):
‘O (you) Messengers! Eat of the Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods which Allaah has made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats, vegetables, fruits)] and do righteous deeds. Verily, I am Well-Acquainted with what you do’ [al-Mu’minoon 23:51]
‘O you who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah — Islamic Monotheism)! Eat of the lawful things that We have provided you with’ [al-Baqarah 2:172]
5. Distracted Heart.
Be aware of the greatness of the One upon Whom you are calling. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Know that Allaah does not answer a du’aa from a distracted heart.” (al-Tirmidhi, classed as hasan by al-Albaani).
6. Trying to hasten the response. The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: “The du’aa’ of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not impatient and says, ‘I made du’aa’ but it was not answered.’” Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.
7. Making the du’aa’ conditional, such as saying, “O Allaah, forgive me if You will” or “O Allaah, have mercy upon me if You will.” . The Prophet ﷺ said: “Let not any one of you say, ‘O Allaah, forgive me if You will, O Allaah, have mercy on me if You will.’ Let him be resolute in the matter, whilst knowing that no one can compel Allaah to do anything.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.
In order for du’aa’s to be answered, it is not essential to adhere to all of these points and be free of all that could prevent one’s du’aa’s from being answered. That is something which happens very rarely. But one has to try hard and strive towards achieving this.
Every Dua of a believer is Responded
The response to the du’aa’ may take different forms:
either Allaah will respond and fulfil the desire of the person who made the du’aa’,
or He will ward off some evil from him because of the du’aa’, or He will make something good easy for him to attain because of it,
or He will save it with Him for him on the Day of Resurrection when he will be most in need of it.
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